Where do you believe you belong?
Why is it that when someone wants to change, they want a better life, they are miserable where they are at, but when they are given the tools and the opportunity to change things, they don’t, and they end up back where they were in difficult, unhappy circumstances?
People go where they think they belong. They stay in their comfort zone, which is really just a “familiar zone.” They are line up their circumstances with their inner “I AM” identity. It doesn’t matter how much opportunity is given a person, if they don’t believe they are worthy and deserving of it, if they don’t believe they belong in better circumstances, they won’t stay there. That is why it is so important that you change your “I AM” statements.
I am not good enough to be here = crash and burn!
Lead with your strengths:
When I was 19 I had a co-worker who had been in prison. I never knew why he had been in prison, and I wasn’t even curious about why. When I met him he was probably around 30 years old, and he seemed like a sharp guy. He was clean cut, he was friendly, he was a good worker, he was good at encouraging other people. I enjoyed being with him. After I had known him for a few months I found out he had been in jail. This really surprised, I would have never guessed. But as he spoke of his experience in prison, all he talked about were the good changes he had made in prison. He spoke of a spiritual rebirth that he experienced in prison. He spoke of reading the Bible and the Book of Mormon for the first time in prison, and how he came out of prison with a determination to live a good life. And he was living a good life. There were no clues, no evidence in his current life style or character traits of his troubled past. His presence lifted others.
I know another man who is an ex-convict, and everyone knows it. He leads with his problems. He lets everyone know he served time in jail. He lets everyone know he is struggling. It is as if he is carrying a heavy backpack with the problems of life, and he tries to put his heavy backpack on everyone he meets. He is full of self-pity and wants everyone to know just how hard life is for him. Not surprising most people don’t want to spend time with him. Rather than lifting others, his presence weighs others down.
What is your story going to be? You get to choose the story you create, the path you will take. Your life story can be similar to my former co-worker; you can reach a point where there are no clues in the present of the troubles of your past.
There is a story of an artist named “Whistler” who painted a spray of roses, it was his best painting ever. Many offered to buy it from him, but he was not willing to sell it. He kept it as a reminder of what his potential was. Whenever he was struggling or discouraged, he would look at the painting of the roses and say, “Whenever I feel my hand has lost its cunning, whenever I doubt my ability, I look at the little picture of the spray of roses and say to myself, ‘Whistler you painted that, your hand drew it. Your imagination conceived the colors. Your skill put the roses on the canvas.” Then he said, ‘I know that what I have done, I know I can do again.” Hang on the walls of your mind the memory of your successes. Take counsel from your strength, not your weakness. Think of the good jobs you have done. Think of the times you rose above your average level of performance, and carried out an idea, or a dream, or a desire for which you had deeply longed. Hang these pictures on the walls of your mind, And look at them as you travel the roadway of life.”
Make a collection of your great experiences, those you have had in the past, and those you are hoping for in the future. A successful baseball manager was asked to describe his greatest game ever. He said, “I can’t, because I haven’t had it yet.”
Create a daily practice of thinking some uplifting thoughts, reading great literature, listen to inspiring music.
We load up with guilt complexes. compound our problem by hoarding our mistakes. SFT drawer – Stupid Fool Things we have done. We let our SFT files get a too large.
Whenever intelligence is recounted, it is increased. Describe what you do better than anyone else.
Life begins when you begin, life can begin anew every morning. Begin a new life! Immerse yourself with thoughts of the life you would love to have. Start a fire in your soul, have a burning desire to be the best you can be. Envision a great life with no clues of the troubles of your past!
“Every adversity, every unpleasant circumstance, every failure, and every physical pain carries with it the seed of an equivalent benefit.” – Napoleon Hill
The pendulum affect, the further you pull a swing back, the further it will swing the other way. In order to shoot an arrow, you have to pull back the string, and then he arrow can be launched with amazing speed. View these circumstances as your bow string being pulled back, and you are ready to spring forward.
The tree that never had to fight, for sun and sky and air and light,
But stood out in the open plane, and always got its share of rain,
Never became a forest king, but lived and died a scrubby thing.
The man (woman) that never had to toil to live,
who never had to win his share of sun and sky and light and air,
never became a manly man, but lived and died as he began.
Good timber does not grow in ease, the stronger wind, the stronger trees.
The further sky, the greater length. The more the storm, the more the strength.
By sun and cold and rain and snow, in trees and men good timber grow.
Where thickest lies the forest growth, we find the patriarchs of both.
And they hold counsel with the stars, whose broken branches show the scars
of many winds and much of strife, this is the common law of life.